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It’s hard to believe that in a about a week my littlest guy will be four months old! Where does the time go? Just like I did with Eli, I took a few months off from blogging to get adjusted to our new normal. With my first post back I wanted to take the time to write about Ephraim’s birth.

{Don’t worry, I’m not an overshare-er when it comes to that sort of thing} 

After two years we are finally a family of 4!

After two years we are finally a family of 4!

With Eli my husband made a video while we were at the hospital, documenting the family that came to visit and those precious moments when we got to hold him for the first time. We love having those memories captured and did the same for Ephraim as well. The video is not done being edited, but once it is I will gladly be sharing it with you.

Well to start off, this pregnancy was much harder than my first. Granted I was four years older so that definitely plays into it I’m sure! But, I also didn’t know that I had Lupus with my first pregnancy. Thankfully, my Lupus tends to be less active during pregnancy, so even though this time around it was much harder, I am grateful that overall everything went well.

I love the excitement in Eli's eyes! He loves his brother!

I love the excitement in Eli’s eyes! He loves his brother!

I was induced at 38 weeks this time around and that was completely different. I liked it, yet didn’t like it all at the same time. With my first I went into labor on my own at 39 weeks. I loved the excitement of getting to call family and tell them we were headed to the hospital. This time it was nice that our family got to plan ahead of time for the delivery. But, man was it hard sleeping the night before being induced! It’s like being a kid again the night before Christmas! My mind was constantly spinning thinking about the next morning.

We headed to the hospital around five in the morning. It was super weird just walking into the hospital knowing I was having a baby that day and yet I wasn’t currently in any pain like I was last time since I showed up to the hospital in labor with my first. Another thing that was super weird was being able to sit in our room at the hospital and watch tv since I was waiting for the induction to start. They said to rest while I waited, but that wasn’t going to happen! Once they began to induce me everything progressed rather quickly. My labor started around 7:00AM and Ephraim was born at 1:20PM.

Hello my sweet boy!

Hello my sweet boy!

Those moments after he was born was absolutely perfect. Our oldest had to go to the NICU for a few hours. They literally handed him to me for a few seconds and then took him away, I didn’t see him again for about seven hours. It was horrible! But this time around everything went so smoothly! I got to hold him, cuddle him and introduce him to his big brother and the rest of our family! No NICU visits for us this time! Yay! It was truly wonderful!

 

I am four weeks away from meeting my second child! It’s an amazing feeling knowing that we are so close, especially since this was a very long journey. With both of our boys we were not the lucky ones to conceive quickly. The first time around it took us seven months to get pregnant, while that is certainly not long compared to some people’s journeys it definitely is longer than we expected for being young and healthy. Little did we know that I had Lupus and it was playing a factor into me getting pregnant. This time around we were aware that it might take a while. But, I will say even though I thought it would take a while I did not expect it being a two-year wait.

Maternity_11I had weird symptoms for about four years off and on, but nothing that would tie anything together for the doctors to think, hmmm… maybe it’s Lupus. After my oldest was born I had a rough recovery and then around the time he was eight months old all the symptoms I had previously hit at once and more. By the time he was a year and a half I was diagnosed, finally. Truthfully, I was just glad to finally have a name, a thing, a reason for everything. I could finally know what I was working with. Getting any diagnosis is scary, especially one like Lupus since it is so mysterious and can attack any part of your body. It’s hard to predict and hard to treat. But, God gave me a peace from the beginning. My story is from Him, He has everything in control and Lupus is just part of my story and I have come to terms with that. He has plans for me!

Since I was young, one of the first things that the doctor asked was if I wanted to have anymore children. There was no question that I did, we had always talked about wanting to have a large family. But, it was going to have to wait… for the time being. Lupus patients can have safe pregnancies and healthy babies, but the best thing to do is first get it under control before putting your body through the stress of pregnancy. So that meant that I spent the next year working with the doctor to get everything controlled and to a point that I could get pregnant. That was hard, because by then in our ideal world we would have already been trying for another baby. Being told yes, but not right now is very trying…

After a year we finally got the okay from the doctor, everything looked good and we could try for our second child! Yay! And then came the next year… I honestly thought, oh it will take a while, but probably not longer than it took the last time. Well, it took exactly a year before we were pregnant. Since it was such a long wait I truthfully was in shock when I had a positive pregnancy test! You wait that long and eventually you start to think of it as a distant future thing, when it finally meets your present it’s so exciting you can’t believe it.

Fast forward a few months and I am sitting here, my oldest will be four next month and my youngest will be born within the next four weeks. It was definitely not the plan we had envisioned for our family, we had always pictured a two to three-year age gap. But, God has a much better, more beautiful plans than we can make for ourselves. Will we get to have four kids like we always imagined? I don’t know, and at first that saddened me. But now, I know that we will be given the number of children that God had planned for us from the beginning. If that means two, three or four it doesn’t matter, because whatever His plans are for me I am thankful! I am thankful to be called Mom and thankful for the two amazing little boys that God has blessed me with already.

A New Season Ahead

July 19, 2014 — Leave a comment

If you haven’t noticed, it’s been pretty quiet around my blog lately. I took about a 6 month break from pretty much all my writing. There was a lot going on and it just seemed like the thing that needed to happen, one less thing to think about in my day. But, only for a season, because I truly do love my writing time… and now I am back!

The Regal Ruby is our take on the classic Cherry Pie

The Regal Ruby is our take on the classic Cherry Pie

The last post that I wrote was about The Year of Pie. Well, many of you probably already know that I have started a company with one of my friends, Viva La Pies. This was all in the beginning stages when I took my writing break. I have wanted to own my own Pie and Coffee shop for about eight years now. It never failed that when we would visit family in a small town in east Texas, Chase and I would find ourselves in the local pie shop dreaming about my future shop. We had talked about the “someday” pie shop for so many years that when we began to get more serious about it, it was kind of surreal. Finally, Chase asked me, “if you didn’t try, would you regret it?” I had no question in my mind what the answer was, yes… I would always wonder what-if. And with that we had our answer. My business partner and I worked for several months perfecting our menu and getting it exactly how we wanted it. Then came time for the Kickstarter, because opening a pie shop can be rather pricey. We ran a month-long Kickstarter and unfortunately we were not funded. It was definitely a disappointment. But, that has not stopped us. And why should it? Right now, we are operating as a home bakery and are working towards our store front. God can see what is ahead, and for that I am thankful, because he knows the best time for this to happen. Not to mention, we have had a great receiving from our online followers once we started accepting pie orders as a home bakery.

Viva La Pies

Want some pie? Don’t worry, we have plenty!

 

Also during my writing break and in the middle of starting Viva La Pies, I found out that I was pregnant. This was a two-year long wait that we were very excited about! We were so ready to grow our family, and was starting to wonder if that was ever going to happen for us. Not to mention how my Lupus was going to respond. Thankfully Lupus has been so quiet, I can actually say that I don’t even realize I have it right now! Praise the Lord! Like I mentioned above, it was a disappointment when our Kickstarter was not funded, but it definitely made sense with what was going on within our own family, it would not have been easy to open up a store front while pregnant.

Now, I am home after two years of being in the workforce. Those two years taught me so much, and I am thankful for that time along with this new journey ahead. My days fill up fast as I have an amazing three-and-a-half year old who keeps me busy, a couple of days a week I work for one of Chase’s companies, along with marketing and baking pies for Viva, all while being pregnant. It’s busy, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything! I am thoroughly enjoying the blessing we were given that is allowing me to work from home right now.

Sometimes, our timeline looks a little different from God’s timeline, but He always knows what He is doing!

 

Lupus. It’s a word we all know but a disease most know so little about. I was once a part of the crowd that knew nothing about this invisible illness, and then I found  out I had it! There is no simple way of getting diagnosed. In fact this was a four-year process and I didn’t even realize it! When you keep getting misdiagnosed but have faith that the doctors treating you are accurate then it doesn’t really cross your mind that something much more could be going on. It all started one night, four years ago when I awoke in a panic. My heart was racing, my chest felt so tight and painful that I could hardly breath. I could have sworn I was having a heart attack! I can still remember how scared I was, I’ve never felt that kind of fear before. We went to the ER only to be told that my cartilage in my chest was inflamed. They chalked it up to exercising. I was told to simply take some ibuprofen and I would get along just fine.

feetAround this same time I also had a rash on my torso. I went to several different doctors, all of which gave me a different answer, different medicine and nothing proved to work. I was beginning to feel like I was just imagining things. But, I didn’t really know what else to do other than maybe find a doctor that could not only give me answers, but that I could trust.

During all this time my chest pain would return for days or weeks at a time. Eventually I got to the point where I felt like I couldn’t breath so I went to our new family doctor and he started me out on an inhaler to see how it worked and brought me in for follow-up appointments. I was so appreciative of a doctor that cared for his patients and followed up with them. I wasn’t on the inhaler very long and wasn’t fully convinced that it worked. Then I got pregnant and my symptoms improved, which can happen with Lupus patience.

A few months after having my son my symptoms began to come back along with a new one that I had never seen before. Every time I got cold my fingers would turn stark white and stay that way for a very long time. They would then go painfully numb as the blood worked its way back in. This was a pretty scary thing to see. At first I thought it was just poor circulation but I really felt like something wasn’t exactly right. So, I went in to see my family doctor and showed him a picture on my phone of what my fingers were doing. He immediately called for blood work.

Within a week I had my results back where I was told that they were referring me to a rheumatologist. Everything finally came together at that first appointment. The past four years of chest pains was Lupus, the rash was Lupus, the painful shortness of breath was Lupus, my fingers turning white was Lupus. I didn’t even realize during all this time that I was being misdiagnosed, thankfully I found a doctor that called for the blood work.

This is a problem for so many with Lupus because it’s symptoms mimic that of so many other diseases. No one blood test can diagnose it either. It takes blood work, examining your symptoms and your history. Because of these reasons it can take years before a person is diagnosed, for me it took four years and I didn’t even know it!

So much changed after I received my diagnosis. I am learning my illness and hoping to not only spread awareness so others will not go misdiagnosed, but to spread a little hope and inspiration to others in similar circumstance, because Lupus does not define me!

If you would like to join my team and walk a mile in the annual Lupus Walk or donate to the cause, you can do so by following this link.

Thank you for helping me in my fight with Lupus!

Most Amazing Day

December 5, 2010 — Leave a comment

I decided to wait until Chase and I started to adjust to the new transition of parenthood before getting back to blogging. I thought I would take this first blog back to share Eli’s birth story with you. And no worries, there wont be any TMI or anything. :)

November 17th I went to bed around midnight after already having contractions off and on for awhile that evening. I did not sleep well or much at all that night. I would find myself going to sleep and waking up to contractions continually until about 4:30 in the morning. By that point I had gotten maybe an hour of sleep and that is being generous on my guess. From 4:30 to 5:30 my contractions were varying from 5 minutes apart to 3 or 4 minutes apart. These were very intense contracts that I actually had to “breath” through. At 5:30 I decided to let Chase know that he would not be going into work that day. We got up and both took showers, with me pausing every few minutes to breath through a contraction. I called my parents to let them know we were headed to the hospital and it was not easy talking to my mom with the contractions. I told Chase to finish making the phone calls because I was not getting back on the phone again.

We were actually not rushing to get to the hospital at first since the contracts were still in the 5 minute range and then I looked at my timed contractions and realized that they were coming about every two minutes now. This made us hurry up a little, but of course we couldnt just walk right out the door because one of our dogs, Stella, tracked in mud and me being the clean freak I am Chase cleaned it up for me before we left. Sounds crazy I know but just the day before I had cleaned the house and I wanted to keep it clean to come home to.

We arrived at the hospital a little before 6:00. We went through the emergency room doors because at night the main doors lock. We got inside and they had me get in a wheel chair and sent me up to labor and delivery. Once there the nurse checked me and said that I was in labor, early labor but I would not be sent home. Eli would be coming that day! Around 7:00 my doctor stopped by to see how I was doing and to break my water. After they did that I was moved from triage to my labor and delivery room. By this point my parents and nieces had made it to the hospital. My brother and sister in law were on the road and Chase’s parents were too. Chase’s sister didn’t make it until a little after 10:00 because she was having her first baby doctor appointment with my doctor in the building next to us; and Chase’s brother had class until that afternoon.

Anyway, labor continued to progress quickly, and let me tell you I was not very chatty, those contracts are intense! Once I got my epidural though things were so much better. I was at a 5 by the time I got my epidural and I was so thankful for that relief from the pain. I was able to talk and enjoy the experience a little more. Once I was at an 8 almost 9 we asked the family to go to the waiting room so that I could get some rest before it was time to push. Chase and I were able to enjoy that time alone listening to worship music, it was such a beautiful moment.

Once the nurse gave the green light for pushing I was incredibly greatful for that epidural because my contractions were lasting for 5 minutes and were about 5 minutes apart. It was crazy! Eventually though it all paid off and on November 18th at 3:23pm Eli was born, weighing in at 7 pounds 9 ounces and 20 inches long, he was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen! I actually had a hard time seeing him at first because my eyes were so full of tears. The worst part was that they only let me hold him for about a minute and then they took him to the nursery because he was breathing fast. That is the worst thing ever to a mom who wants to hold her newborn. They thought that he was going to be in there for 6 hours but thankfully he started breathing good on his own and they brought him to me just a couple of hours later. I can’t describe how amazing it was to hold him in my arms and feel the rush of love fall over me. It truly is love at first sight! I am so thankful everyday for this sweet blessing that God has given to Chase and I. I am so glad that I trusted in God’s timing because now I have a beautiful son that I love so much!

Here is a short video Chase made of that day.