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Todays post is from a guest blogger, Michelle Clark. She has her own blog you should also check out, Miss Banana Pants. She’s a great writer with an awesome sense of humor and tells the truth exactly how it is. For example, I read the other day on facebook a status update talking about rolling a fitted sheet into a ball after failing to fold it. I laughed out loud because I SO do that and never even thought about whether other people would call that normal! So with that, I will give you her post…

 

Ever had one of those days when your child decides to pick their nose in public, then offers his “finds” to the person behind you in the Wal-Mart check-out line? Or how about one of those days when your toddler asks why it’s okay for you to spank him, but it’s not okay for him to spank his friends? How about one of those days when you try to change a “questionable” diaper in the car, only to realize at the wrong moment that your toddler wasn’t finished with said “questionable business” and thus, proceeds to “finish” all over the front seat and your new Miss Me jeans? As crazy (and disgusting) as all those scenarios sound, I had them ALL 3 this morning. That’s right…..it’s Wednesday, but REALLY, it might as well have been another Monday for me. Usually things like this only happen on that one dreaded day of the week.  I just want to shower, to go back to bed, and start over….

But I press on. I AM supermom, you know! I do have it all together and all is under control. At least I like to pretend so. Because even after mornings like the one I just had, that’s what you do. You run into a fellow mom at the mall or supermarket who asks you how things are going. You respond, “Fantastic!” ……..LIE. “Pretending” sounds much more innocent, but that’s not what’s going on here. Cause we’re ALL liars. Every last over-achieving one of us. ALL MOMS ARE LIARS.

 

We would all like you to think we are the best of the best at all things “parenting”, when, in reality we are just giving you our own opinions and experiences. Those “experiences” are foggy though, but we force our two-cents on other moms so that they won’t know that we have had gruesome, normal, Mommy-mornings like the one I just had. Let me give you an example of our good intentions gone bad:

 

You: “Oh, your daughter isn’t sleeping through the night? That must be awful. My son has always been a good sleeper. He sleeps like, 12 hours now. It’s kind of crazy.”

 

Your intention:  I want this person to know that sleep IS possible.  That one day it’s all going to work out and she’ll have a fantastic night’s sleep. We’re all in this together!

 

How she’s taking it:  I’m a failure.  I’m never going to sleep again.  My life is over.  I hate myself.  My roots are growing in and my footwear is horrendous.

 

See how easily your good intentions have been misunderstood? But here’s the thing you’re forgetting:

 

You’re LYING. Again.

 

You don’t mean to. And yes, we do believe that your child is sort of sleeping but it took you a heck of a long time to make that happen and you forgot to mention that. You crossed out that little tidbit of info in your maternal memory bank because you don’t want to remember how you lost clumps of your hair and consistently told your husband that he was a douche face. You were stressed! Not sleeping is a form a torture. Look what happened to Lady Macbeth! Who wants to remember how hard it was when you can focus your energy on how awesome you feel that you only wake up once or twice now (which technically isn’t sleeping through the night, but never mind.)

 

So here’s the up side: Anytime another mother gives you information about her life that in turn makes you feel like you are FAILING MISERABLY as a parent just whisper under your breath: “she’s lying”.   Because it’s true. She is lying. But not just to you, also to herself. And she doesn’t even know it. (And even if she’s not – who cares – you’ll feel better) So forgive her for not remembering what really happened and find comfort in the fact that there is a chemical in our brains that eliminates pain memory.

 

Because one day it WILL all work out. You will go to sleep and you will leave the house without Cheerios in your hair. You will once again find the matching socks to wear instead of matching a pair that just look kinda sorta similar. And, yes, you will one day wear a bra without flaps on the front – a bra that keeps your boobs pointing UP and not DOWN.

 

But at this point you should probably just offer to buy her a coffee because, seriously, you both deserve it. Just think how different life would have been for Lady Macbeth had someone just given her a hug and offered to buy her a mocha latte. A lot less drama that’s for sure.

 

Why aren’t we honest? Why can’t we say, “Well, I’m doing alright, minus getting pooped on, spit all over, and overcoming the constant public humiliation that my toddler puts me through on a daily basis. Thank you for asking.” We don’t have to be supermoms. We also don’t have to have better kids than every other mom out there. The more honest we are with each other, the more we can learn to survive this crazy journey of motherhood. Let’s hold our tongues and hold each other up more often. We’re all in this together, clothes stained with poop and all. You know it’s true.

He is Faithful

October 4, 2011 — Leave a comment

“Great is Thy faithfulness! Great is Thy faithfulness! Morning by morning new mercies I see; All I have needed Thy hand hath provided— Great is Thy faithfulness, Lord, unto me!” Great is Thy Faithfulness by Thomas O. Chisolm and William Runyan

“Your love, Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.” Psalm 36:5 (NIV) 

I grew up in a church that sang the old hymns each Sunday. I haven’t had a hymn stuck in my head in a long time. Usually I have a song from Air1 playing in my head. This morning however I woke up with an old hymn on my mind, “Great is Thy Faithfulness.” Last night I got a text from a friend saying that they closed the deal to sell their house. They have been trying for a while to sell their home and the day finally came! God is so faithful! No matter the circumstance, whether we feel its big or small He never fails, He is always faithful! The chorus in the song says, “All I have needed Thy hand hath provided—” This was a great reminder for me, there has never been a need that He has not met. For some reason I still allow myself to get worried or stressed about things but eventually I am always reminded of the truth that God is always faithful to meet my needs!

Photo Credit: Emiliano Horcada

“Sing praises to God, sing praises; sing praises to our King, sing praises.” Psalm 47:6 (NIV) 

Last night at the women’s event at church we sang this song. All day today it has been stuck in my head. God is everything we will ever need… He is everything when we feel like we won’t measure up. But, the truth is that in His arms we will always have enough! Praise God!

 

Forever Reign by Hillsong Live 

You are good, You are good
When there’s nothing good in me
You are love, You are love
On display for all to see
You are light, You are light
When the darkness closes in
You are hope, You are hope
You have covered all my sin

You are peace, You are peace
When my fear is crippling
You are true, You are true
Even in my wandering
You are joy, You are joy
You’re the reason that I sing
You are life, You are life,
In You death has lost it’s sting

Oh, I’m running to your arms,
I’m running to arms
The riches of your love
Will always be enough
Nothing compares to Your embrace
Light of the world forever reign

You are more, You are more
Than my words will ever say
You are Lord, You are Lord
All creation will proclaim
You are here, You are here
In your presence I’m made whole
You are God, You are God
Of all else I’m letting go

Oh, I’m running to your arms
I’m running to arms
The riches of your love
Will always be enough
Nothing compares to Your embrace
Light of the world forever reign

My heart will sing
no other name
Jesus, Jesus

Oh, I’m running to your arms
I’m running to arms
The riches of your love
Will always be enough
Nothing compares to Your embrace
Light of the world forever reign

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” Psalm 127:3 (NIV)

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“I knew when I met you an adventure was going to happen…” A.A. Milne

In a matter of one day things became much more exciting at our house. Eli learned to pull himself up! Today he has walked along the coffee table while holding on! They seriously grow up so fast! Not only is he pulling himself up and walking along the coffee table, but he has two more teeth coming in, he feeds himself food and we lowered his crib. So much so fast, at least it feels that way! I told Chase last night that his room doesn’t feel like a baby room anymore, it feels like a toddler room now. He is getting big so quickly! I always heard that when it comes to your children growing up it feels like it happens within the blink of an eye. Only now do I realize just how true that statement is. I am so happy and excited that he is learning to do all these new things but I am just not ready for him to grow up. I’m sure other moms know how I feel. All I can really do is just take each day and cherish each moment I have with him, at each new stage and each new milestone he comes to. Every day is a blessing and every child is a blessing. I am thankful that I get to spend my days with the most wonderful blessing!

 

Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, for our “God is a consuming fire.” Hebrews 12:28-29 (NIV) 

 When I listening to this song it just puts me in a good mood. God is always with us. I love the part in the chorus where it says ‘consume me like a fire.’ When we let God consume us we will have “Something Beautiful” come over us! It is a beautiful thing when we completely give ourselves to God.

 

Something Beautiful by NeedToBreathe

In your ocean I’m ankle deep,
I feel the waves crashing on my feet;
It’s like I know where I need to be
But I can’t figure out,
I can’t figure out
Just how much air I will need to breathe
When your wave washes over me,
There’s only one way to figure out
Will you let me drown?
Will you let me drown?

Hey now, this is my desire
Consume me like a fire
‘Cause I just want
Something beautiful to touch me
I know that I’m in reach
‘Cause I am down on my knees
And waiting for
Something beautiful.
Oh-oh… something beautiful.

And the water is rising quick,
And for years I was scared of it.
We can’t be sure when it will subside
So I won’t leave your side,
No, I can’t leave your side.

Hey now, this is my desire
Consume me like a fire
‘Cause I just want
Something beautiful to touch me
I know that I’m in reach
‘Cause I am down on my knees
And waiting for
Something beautiful.
Oh-oh… something beautiful,
Oh-oh… something beautiful.

In a daydream
I couldn’t live like this
I wouldn’t stop until I found something beautiful.
But when I wake up
And all I want, I have
You know it’s still all I need – something beautiful.

Hey now, this is my desire
Consume me like a fire
‘Cause I just want
Something beautiful to touch me
I know that I’m in reach
‘Cause I am down on my knees
And waiting for
Something beautiful.
Oh-oh… something beautiful,
Oh-oh… something beautiful.