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A Spoonful of Grace

November 21, 2015

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There are some weeks where I feel like I am just winning at life! I’m sure my fellow moms out there know what I am talking about. I manage to get all the laundry folded and put away, I’ve cleaned the entire house, cooked and cleaned up the kitchen daily, taken care of any miscellaneous errands/chores along with homeschooling and spending quality time with my boys and husband. When I have weeks like this I seriously do feel like I am on roll, finally in a good groove and being a great mom and wife.

Then there are the weeks where the laundry is piled up. Sometimes it’s that I can’t get to the laundry so it’s waiting to get washed, or (like right now) it’s clean and in a pile on the couch. If I’m really lucky then it’s clean and folded sitting on the piano in the living room waiting to be put away. Clutter is everywhere, toys everywhere, I need to clean, honestly the kitchen is driving me crazy! Am I the only person whose kitchen seems to be the catch-all for everything? It’s like we come in the from garage and that’s as far as everything goes, right to the kitchen counter. Ugh! And the dishes, OH the dishes! Do they ever end? I don’t know what I would do without that dishwasher!?! But I just need to find five minutes in my day to load that said dishwasher.

When I come off of a week like this I feel like I am definitely not winning, let alone even doing a half decent job at being a wife and mom. I mean how can I have one week where everything goes so smoothly and I get everything done on my lists along with plenty of fun things for the kids and I to do, just to have the following week be the exact opposite of that. It’s not even like I did anything differently, yet somehow there wasn’t enough time in the day to do everything. I’m not a mathematician, but I’m pretty sure that I have the exact same amount of hours in every day. It just doesn’t add up to me that one week I’m winning the race and the next week I’m in the back of the race sprinting trying to keep up.

I just finished reading the new Jen Hatmaker book, For the Love. (If you haven’t read it, you should stop what you are doing and order it on Amazon because it is wonderful!) This book was perfect, I felt like she was literally talking right to me. It’s all about grace, and the most important part I took away from it is giving yourself grace. We can NOT do it ALL! I repeat we can not do it all! And guess what… that’s OKAY! What? It’s okay that I can’t do it all and that I might need some help? Yes, we are only human. Some weeks I might have less energy than other weeks due to my lupus, so the laundry might just have to wait until the next day, and guess what… it’s okay! Also, it’s okay to say no and put your time and energy where its most important. Do the dishes later that night and go play a game with your kids or read a book together. Give yourself permission to embrace this time and not get bogged down by the chores and chaos of the day. Ask for help when you are having a day or week where you feel overwhelmed. I don’t know why I can have such an easy and productive week when the next week makes me feel like a failure. The only explanation I have is that we are human, not super heroes and some times that’s just the way life goes. Give yourself some grace because your kids and your husband love you, they aren’t worried about the dishes in the sink. It’s all about grace, give yourself some. It’s okay!

Christmas 2014

December 17, 2014 — Leave a comment

It’s that time of year again when families send out their Christmas cards. Well, this is the fourth year that our family has opted out of the Christmas card and instead made a Christmas video. We absolutely love making these videos, it’s a lot of fun and we get to capture precious moments with our kiddos while making great memories.

Merry Christmas from my family to yours!

 

Layman Christmas 2014 from Chase Layman on Vimeo.

“No Mom, it’s okay. I want to suck my thumb.” 

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The first Lego set he built all by himself

My child actually said this to me this morning when I asked him to take his thumb out of his mouth. I couldn’t help but crack up laughing. Of course son, I know you want to suck your thumb, that’s why you do it. I never expected him to answer me with that kind of response though! When did he become a tiny adult? I mean seriously, it feels like overnight he has gone from a baby in diapers to this grown up kid with opinions of his own!

Honestly, I love watching him grow! But, I’m not sure how ready I am for this growing up thing, and the day that he thinks he doesn’t need moms help anymore. It’s every parents struggle, you are thrilled to watch them grow, learn and begin to do things for themselves. But, inevitably they grow up and these years of playing legos for hours, helping tie their shoes and playing super heroes will be behind us and they will be young adults facing new sets of challenges, surprising me with their sense of humor and wisdom. I don’t think that there will ever be a season during this parenting journey where you aren’t surprised by the new things your kids have learned or by how quickly the time has gone. It’s just part of parenting.

Yes, I hate how quickly time goes. Yes, I would love to keep him small for just a little while longer. But, if I did that then I would miss out on the precious moments that come with each new age. I would have missed out on a morning of him cracking me up with his fun personality and sense of humor, seriously, he is hilarious! I think the best thing to remember is that our children will grow up, that’s just how life goes. But, there is so much joy to be had in ever stage of life. Just be in the moment and enjoy every minute of it!

 

The Year of Pie

January 24, 2014 — Leave a comment

I absolutely love baking pies! And it goes without saying that I absolutely love eating pie!

Think about it…

Pie is just plain awesome! It brings a sense of comfort, and a comfy home feeling.

What is with all the cupcake love these days? Yes, I love a good red velvet cupcake, but it certainly doesn’t bring the nostalgia of a homemade pie! Am I right?

Look out world, I'm baking some pie!

Look out world, I’m baking some pie!

Ever since I can remember I was the kid that watched the cooking channels for all the baking shows. Besides making me crave what they were making, it would get my creative wheels turning. From then on I have had this insane desire to be an incredible baker.

I have tried my hand at baking the cool decorative cakes and cupcakes. While they turn out yummy (most of the time), they don’t always turn out pretty. Not to mention the immense frustration I get from my lack of skill with cake decorating. My kitchen ends up destroyed… flour everywhere, not a single pan clean in the kitchen and a lopsided cake that was definitely prettier in my head than on my plate.

But pie, ahhh that is another story. Last night I was creating a new recipe for my sister’s birthday and let me tell you I was loving every minute of it. Don’t get me wrong, I have had my failed attempts at recipes. But that is part of getting better, you learn from experience. I just feel like I am in my element when I work with pies. Oh, did I mention the pie that I made was a mix between an Oreo pie and a french silk? I’m thinking of calling it Oreo silk, or silky Oreo…

Get ready 2014, I’m baking lots of pies this year!

As many of you know, my family no longer does Christmas cards. We make a Christmas video each year and I just love this tradition! It is something that we look forward to making every year.

Merry Christmas!