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Table Tantrums

July 10, 2012 — Leave a comment

Every parent book out there will tell you that the secret to raising a child is consistency. I would have to agree with this statement. BUT, there are some cases where it feels like no matter the consistency, your child is just NOT going to learn anything from the situation and your efforts are completely hopeless. This was such the case last night at our house. It was time for dinner and Eli came running up to the tabel exciteed for his meal. We sit him in his chair put his plate in front of him and immeiately began the tantrum! I made something new for dinner but I had intentionally put sides of potatoes and carrots on his plate, which he normally loves. Every word from his mouth was “no!” He pushed his plate away, we scooted it back, he pushed it away… this was an ongoing process. Throwing the food to the dogs was his next step in his plan of action. Now I don’t know about you but I was completely at a loss, my child has never been a picky eater. I have never dealt with him completely refusing to even try one bite! I had always said that I didn’t want to be a short order cook and make several different meals every night to meet everyone’s taste buds in the house, the kids didn’t have to like what I make but they had to at least try it. Sounded real good before I had any kids… now it’s finally the current chapter in my book. Everything is always easier when you are not facing the situation at the time! So what’s a parent to do when your toddler refuses to even taste dinner? Consistency… right? That’s what everyone will tell you but sometimes it’s just hard when they are in the midst of a tantrum and you are thinking to yourself… is he even learning anything from this? Yes, after an hour Eli did eventually try his dinner after my attempt to dip his potato in ketchup (which grossed me out because I can not stand ketchup, but hey, he tried it!) Whether you have a child that is grown or a newborn, as parents we have all faced or will face nights like these. So remember… while consistency is the key so is supporting each other along our journey in parenthood!

Faith: Road Blocks

September 27, 2011 — Leave a comment

“The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.” Psalm 18:2 (NIV) 

“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” Psalm 55:22 (NIV) 

This past weekend at church something that my pastor said really stood out. He was talking about when we are trying to do what God has called us to do it often feels like we take two steps forward and three steps back. I know this is true for our family as we are trying to get out of debt. For instance, it was only a few months ago that we had to buy a new air conditioning unit for the house. That was a pretty penny I was not happy about. We felt the calling to be debt free, start making changes and then that happens. Of course that is only one example. I know I am not alone in feeling this way either. We have friends who are experiencing similar situations, God leading them to do something and they continually feel like they are hitting road blocks. It’s a very frustrating situation. But what I have to keep telling myself is that these things are happen because we are listening and being obedient to God, if we were not there would be no reason for objection because we would be doing exactly what Satan would want, not being obedient to God. So no matter the struggles we face, as long as we are on the path that God has called us on we can find comfort. Believe me though, I am right there with everyone else, I  can still find it hard to hold on to that comfort because lets face it, two steps forward and three back is never easy! So with that said my husband and I are still making financial changes and seeking God’s wisdom about how to become debt free and I am going to do my best to find His comfort because I know we are doing what He has called us to do!

 

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“I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:4 (NIV)

“Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?” Luke 12:25 (NIV)

I believe that we all have specific struggles that are harder for ourselves than they might be for other people. Certain things are just not a struggle for some people and I think that we all have certain struggles so that it causes us to lean on God more, trust Him and have faith. As many of you know from earlier blog posts I struggle with anxiety/worry. I believe this is my hurdle that I am supposed to over come with God’s help. To be honest there are some days or weeks that are great, it feels like it isn’t even work. But then there are other days when it feels like I am right back at the beginning before I ever even realized this was my struggle, having anxiety and worrying over everything. I pray pretty much every day that God will take this struggle away and heal me of it. I keep praying and waiting. Last night though God brought something to my attention. Before He will heal me of this I first have to realize that I have to give everything to God and believe in His power, authority and plan for my life. See, here was my problem… when there would be something that I would start to worry about my husband would tell me to pray about it and my response would be… of course I’ll pray, but it may not be in God’s plan. What I kept telling myself was that I would pray about the situation but it didn’t mean that the horrible wasn’t still God’s plan. I realized last night that deep down I was never truly letting it go and giving it to Him. I was almost afraid that if I did then that would mean the bad would have to happen, almost like He would test me instantly of my faith by making the worst occur. I know this is not how He works, I know that because I put my faith in Him does not mean that the worst will automatically happen to test my faith, yet for some reason I was telling myself it was. This is what it came down to last night when God was opening my eyes… I can not change anything by worrying or having anxiety, I am only hurting myself. When I give my fears to Him and truly give them up then He will give me peace and the strength to get through anything that comes my way. Good and bad will happen, that is just part of life, but when I live in peace and faith in God then I will be able to face any circumstance head on. And most important (for me)… God will not make my worst nightmares come true once I give it all to Him, He loves me beyond understanding so if something bad happens He will carry me through!

“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Romans 12:12 (NIV)

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

As you might have noticed I did not get a new post up yesterday. Lets just say that things have been hitting our family head on the past few days. Over the weekend my husbands grandpa (or as we all called him papa) passed away from a battle with cancer. It is never easy to lose a loved one no matter the case. I have known papa going on seven years now and was able to truly cherish having him in my life. He always made me feel like one of his own grand kids and for that I was always grateful. Like I said at the beginning though, things have been hitting us hard. As we have been trying to cope with the news of papa we also found out that my dad lost his job. Of course no one saw it coming and yet here it happened. I honestly can say that I stopped for a minute and thought to myself, okay, thats enough with the bad news. I know that these kind of weeks or even what may seem like months have hit more people than just our family, but truthfully when you are the one going through it, it never seems that way. When the difficult situations keep piling on I know that God is just waiting for me to turn to Him. Because here is the beauty in these difficult situations…. papa is no longer in pain and is in Heaven as we speak, his memory will live on with us all, and God has a job out there for my dad one that surpasses the last place that he was at, a job that will be more than just a pay check to him. Through pain, confusion, joy and happiness God is there, He never leaves!